Talk dirty to me

If you watch porn, you've heard it to the extreme.

The art of dirty talk. Some are masters, while others shy away. If your sex life is silent maybe you should try saying a few things to spice things up. But we're not all Sasha Grey, so don't be afraid to start out small. Easing yourself into it might be better, especially for you shy ones out there.

So when you think of dirty talk, the dirtiest words probably come to mind. That's fine, because maybe one day you'll find the courage to use them! But those aren't the words you have to use. Some people can't handle being called a whore in the sack, so ask first.

Dirty talk doesn't have to stay in the bedroom, but for the most part it should.

But if you're out with your guy one night, don't be afraid to lean in and tell him how bad you want him. He'll be itching to go home, and won't be able to stop thinking about it the whole night.

Then when you reach the bedroom, it can really begin.

Lets start with the basics.

"Harder", "faster", and "yes". Not only is it simple, but it lets your partner know you like what they're doing. You can decide on the tone and inflection to use...and whisper it in his ear...

Even the natural way you moan during sex can add to the experience.

Then there are bedroom nicknames. They can range from something sweet and saucy, to a bit more extreme. You wouldn't call your girlfriend/boyfriend a dirty little ho anywhere else, but maybe that's what they like in bed.

And when you're really into the action, you can start throwing demands around. Tell him what you want, and where you want it. If you're into swearing, that works too. I'm sure you can think of a few right now!

Other things you could throw in the mix...

Let him know if you want it rough.

Tell him how you feel...and how he feels inside you. You could say something along the lines of "I love it when you [------]", "I want you to [------]". You get the idea. Just keep it simple. We can leave the heavy hitting to the pros. And besides, half the time the dirty porno talk can get annoying.

Basically, just blurt out what you're thinking. If it feels great then let him know!

Dirty talk isn't for everyone though, so do what feels comfortable. And if you are into it, remember that you don't have to talk dirty EVERY time you go at it. It's just a thought for when you're feeling extra playful and in a dirty mood. It doesn't have to be serious, so if you giggle after asking him to smack your ass, thats ok. Keep it light and fun.

Enjoy.

-M

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