January heat

2012 is just around the corner, so I hope you have your best dresses picked out. It may be below zero but I think we can still create a little heat. I mostly mean between the sheets.

One of my favourite things about new years after the party dresses are the resolutions. Haven't we all gathered after the ball drops to whisper our plans, whether its hitting the gym or spending less on shoes (yeah, right). Sometimes a few are a bit out of reach but I have a couple of ideas that are definitely within reason if you are willing.

1. Get a little more va-va voom in the bedroom. For all of those in relationships, this is something that could take it to the next level. Don't get stuck in a rut. Spice it up if you haven't already. And the best part is you can start right when the clock strikes midnight. Fancy a kiss? Lay it on 'em and they'll be dying for more, and none of that "pecking" nonsense, I want PASSION! I want HEAT. If you're shy, get over it, a little PDA never killed anyone...I think.

2. Once the party ends you can really get to the good stuff. Happy new year sex, anyone? And share a little pillow-talk, too. Tell each other your new years resolutions. I must stress the importance of communication. If you want to become closer in the new year then you should consider some conversation following the whole ripping off each others clothes bit. I suggest a little truth or dare between the two of you. But avoid anything that may spark a fight! That would take the fun out of everything.

3. Invest in some sexy play time toys. Whether it's a barely there piece of lingerie or a vibrator, trying something new is always fun. I'm not recommending nipple clamps... unless you've reached that level, of course.

At the very least, try something new. Even just a new position can bring a whole lot of passion rushing back. So light some candles and get to it!

4. To my single people out there, let me just say, making a resolution to "get a boyfriend/girlfriend" is not a good one to go by. Enjoy single life while you have it, because telling yourself you NEED a partner is just ridiculous. You may also find yourself forcing relationships with people you don't even REALLY like. So a great resolution to go by is ENJOY life, let things happen, and if you meet the right person, that's a bonus. Forget about the ticking clock, instead, have some fun. Nothing wrong with a new years eve one night stand if you're up for it. We all need a little lovin' sometimes.

However, I can't stress the importance of independence. If you've had a rough year of dating, maybe 2012 will be a good time to take a break from it. As for the lack of sex, that is nothing a good vibrator can't fix. Focus on friendships this time around.

5. Be happy. I'm getting cheesy but starting the new year on the right foot is a good way to go. And if you're not happy, make a change. Whether its your relationship or you wardrobe.

What are YOUR new years resolutions?

-M

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Twas the night before Christmas...

It has finally arrived! Christmas eve...and when tomorrow's festivities followed by a hectic boxing day surpass, we will be one step closer to new years! But what to do until then, you ask?

I've been having trouble going outside lately, even if there is a lack of snow. It's still below zero and with that, I do not fare well! Instead I prefer movies, blankets, and white wine. If you're not a long distance lover like myself, then this is the perfect way to share this evening with someone special.

And when the family has subsided by the 27th or so...breakfast in bed, anyone?

In the meantime, spice up your holiday by braving the cold and doing something adventurous. We've got a few days before new years sex is underway. If you're lucky enough to have some powder, hit the slopes with your toboggan together, or going skiing/snowboarding.

Make sure you rock a killer dress at that Christmas dinner to drive him crazy, and whip out that new sexmas lingerie he's been waiting for. Naughty texts are fun, as well as a quick make out session in the back room.

Happy holidays, hope you get lots of booty!

I'll be back before the new year to give you something special for your last evening of 2011, and your first morning of 2012.

-M

*photos via blogger

Sweet escape

So the holidays may cramp your sexy style but even if you can't get away for a day there is always the evening. Hotel not an option? Well there's nothing wrong with staying in.

After a huge feast with the family you may be itching to get home, but don't rush it. Have some nice conversation over coffee and tea and take your sweet time. Surviving the holidays can be difficult but teasing one another while you wait for the night to arrive can make things a bit more fun!

Once you escape the grips of Aunt Darlene, it can begin!

What you will need:

1. candles

2. champagne or wine

3. scented oils

4. massage oil

5. bath salts/bubble

6. smooth music, perhaps jazz, a little Sufjan Stevens? Take your pick.

Dim the lights, fill up the tub and have a nice soak with one another. Take turns giving massages and forget how stressful your day with his/her family was. After all, it's most likely going to be a repeat tomorrow.

No need to suffocate, though! Don't let the holiday stress get in the way of your love life. In fact, let it be a reason to spend a little extra time and effort doing something special.

What if you're special someone is in a different city during the holidays? Don't worry, I've got you covered. Tune into my next holiday treat on how to spice up your long distance romance over the long break! After all, just because it's cold outside doesn't mean your relationship has to be, too!

-M

photo via sodahead.com

Naughty is better than nice

The holidays have arrived! If you're as lucky as me you may have escaped unscathed and without exam worries. I was lucky this time around. So now that I'm done with essays and multimedia projects I can bring you some holiday fun!

This is just round one of my fashgasm holiday special...

Obviously the holidays are both a time of fun and stress. How can you both beat the stress of ensuring all the gifts you bought were just right and making it on time to the family dinners? I would suggest a little getaway, even just for one night. Think of it as a special gift to each other! Living Social has some great deals, for example, we managed to snag a one night stay in the deluxe suite at a ritzy place in Old Montreal for half the price!

So once you plan your escape, whether it's in a hotel or requires kicking your roommates out...now you can plan some other fun for the stay...

First of all - I have something to say to the guys. Don't get your girl a lingerie set. If it's going down that road then trust me, she will supply as a gift for you. Besides, wouldn't it be awkward to get her something that just doesn't fit right. Lingerie is a gift FOR you FROM her.

Any lingerie is good, really, as long as you're feeling extra naughty and not even a little bit nice. I'd say go light on the holiday theme though, the whole "Santa's little helper" thing is a bit overdone. Something red and white would do. I really enjoy something along the lines of this:

It's not too much, it feels just right! Basically you just want to avoid anything along the lines of this:

To top it all off, you can feel free to watch some naughty films and pour chocolate on each other. Eat strawberries dipped in chocolate and spend hours in bed. We all deserve a break! But lets make this break a little sexy, shall we?

-M

*photos via montrealhotels.com, diytrade.com and fashionfame.com

one, two, three, floor.

I've always relied heavily on NYLON mag for style advice, because it's generally what got me into fashion in the first place. I remember going to the convenience store on my lunch in the tenth grade and buying NYLON and a 4 pack of Red Bull with Justine. I'd down the Red Bulls by the end of the lunch period (ahh so that's why my sleeping patterns were so messed up in high school...) and spend my next classes flipping through NYLON instead of taking notes. The magazine is what inspired me to start sewing (a habit that died a quick and painful death, only after dropping money on a brand new sewing machine...) and seriously consider fashion journalism or publishing in my future.

I miss being fifteen...

Anyway, I'm on the NYLON website daily checking in on what's new in the world of pop culture, and today I stumbled upon an article about Three Floor Fashion. I've heard of the company before, but only in passing, so I decided to check them out. Their current Lookbook really got my attention, and before I knew it I'd been on the site for 45 minutes, making a mental wish-list of everything I loved.

The one thing I noted about Three Floor Fashion is the fact that they have a diverse collection of pieces, ranging from pastel dresses to harsh, rocker frocks. There's fur, leather, lace, mesh...you name it, it's been incorporated in the designs.

Here's some pictures from the Lookbook.

It was cat themed... perhaps another reason I like 'em so much.

What do you think? I think the outfits make me want to get dressed up and go do something fun. I'm really liking Three Floor Fashion... definitely keeping an eye on them from now on. Thanks for the tip once again, NYLON. Always making my day a little more interesting.

**http://threefloorfashion.com**

Love, Sarah

A couple that plays together stays together

Depending how far you plan on going with this, you may need a safety word. And no, you can't use the word "stop". After all, what's the fun in that?

It's time to take roughhousing to the bedroom. Don't be shy, we all know that secretly, you love it. So I'll guide you through a few simple ways to try a little kink. You can work your way up to the big guns slowly...

One way to really get your partner riled up is to get a little aggressive when you're on top. There's something about being held down that can really get you hot. Unless you prefer to be the dominator, but hey, you can always take turns.

Try putting one hand on their neck, not too tight, but enough to stop them from sitting up. This is a great way to make missionary a little more naughty. If you're not into choking, you can always be held down by the wrists above your head. Completely dominated. This is simple to start with and not painful...unless you want it to be.

You can also try slapping each other around a bit. Go lightly, then work your way up on the scale of pain, it's best to take it slow unless you don't mind having a few bruises. I'm not talking face slaps, but hey, if you're into that, go for it! More like a nice booty slap while she's on top. Or if you're in doggy style position then that's also a perfect opportunity to give her a nice tap. Check the reaction, keep going if it's right. Nothing like a good spanking, right?

Speaking of doggy style, when it comes to that position, there are so many ways to really dominate and be in control. Grab onto the headboard and go for it. Let him push you down and all that good stuff. When it's time for cowgirl, you can be the boss.

Remember getting your hair pulled and how annoying that was? Not anymore! Grab those locks like horse reigns and pull. Safety word might be necessary here, don't want to rip out any. But it's a great move to keep your partner where you want them.

These are just the basics to getting a little rough and kinky. There's so much more to it, but it takes time to get there.

There are also a ton of toys you could try out. For starting out, I would suggest a pair of handcuffs and a feather whip. Save the leather and chains for later. But if you have experience in kink and are craving something more, definitely go for it. Talking to your partner first is best though, especially if they don't know you want to try it out. Surprises are nice sometimes, but painful ones may not be. That's why light kink to start is best...then you can work your way up the chain...no pun intended.

Have a kinky weekend!

M

*photos via tumblr, aliexpress.com, ebay