Menage a trois

I've been hearing a lot of talk about threesomes lately it seems. Some of the stories have been good, and others...not so good. I'm always looking for something sexy to talk about, so I thought...why not blog about it?!

Threesomes aren't for everyone. You definitely need to be comfortable and confident with yourself and with your partner. If you hesitate at the thought...it's probably not for you. No worries, I'm not one for sharing, either...if you know what I mean.

If you're up for it there are definitely some ground rules to consider before hopping into the sack with a third party. Otherwise, things could get ugly...

First of all, you're obviously going to have a little game of tug of war over whether the extra in the bedroom is going to be male or female. How to sort this out? I can't say it would be easy, so you might have to resort to paper scissors rock! Most guys are pretty dead set on having the third be a female, but I know us girls can use our charm to get our way in almost any situation. You could even make a deal that next time you'll choose the other sex.

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Then there is the question of how you're going to pick this lucky candidate. Rule number one: DO NOT under any circumstances choose a close friend. Unless you are certain things would pan out fine...but I've heard some horror stories. Of course, choosing a random out of a crowd isn't always the best decision either...unless you get to know them and after awhile propose a night in.

And of course, make rules of what each of you can and cannot do. Jealousy should not be part of this experience, so don't be afraid to set boundaries. If there is something you would rather not happen between your guy and the extra who was invited, just let him know. Hopefully he will do the same and let you know what makes him uncomfortable. But it is only one night. Which reminds me, if you do it again, the third party probably should not be a repeat. No strings attached should be a top rule in there...which means one time only!

And of course...leave no man behind! This is a threesome after all. Make sure everyone is involved otherwise someone could feel rejected. So share the love! But obviously share more love with the one you'll be going out to dinner with the next day.

And finally, make sure the third party leaves when the fun is over. No cuddles in threes, okay? It's awkward and weird. Lets leave it at that.

-M

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