A couple that plays together stays together

Depending how far you plan on going with this, you may need a safety word. And no, you can't use the word "stop". After all, what's the fun in that?

It's time to take roughhousing to the bedroom. Don't be shy, we all know that secretly, you love it. So I'll guide you through a few simple ways to try a little kink. You can work your way up to the big guns slowly...

One way to really get your partner riled up is to get a little aggressive when you're on top. There's something about being held down that can really get you hot. Unless you prefer to be the dominator, but hey, you can always take turns.

Try putting one hand on their neck, not too tight, but enough to stop them from sitting up. This is a great way to make missionary a little more naughty. If you're not into choking, you can always be held down by the wrists above your head. Completely dominated. This is simple to start with and not painful...unless you want it to be.

You can also try slapping each other around a bit. Go lightly, then work your way up on the scale of pain, it's best to take it slow unless you don't mind having a few bruises. I'm not talking face slaps, but hey, if you're into that, go for it! More like a nice booty slap while she's on top. Or if you're in doggy style position then that's also a perfect opportunity to give her a nice tap. Check the reaction, keep going if it's right. Nothing like a good spanking, right?

Speaking of doggy style, when it comes to that position, there are so many ways to really dominate and be in control. Grab onto the headboard and go for it. Let him push you down and all that good stuff. When it's time for cowgirl, you can be the boss.

Remember getting your hair pulled and how annoying that was? Not anymore! Grab those locks like horse reigns and pull. Safety word might be necessary here, don't want to rip out any. But it's a great move to keep your partner where you want them.

These are just the basics to getting a little rough and kinky. There's so much more to it, but it takes time to get there.

There are also a ton of toys you could try out. For starting out, I would suggest a pair of handcuffs and a feather whip. Save the leather and chains for later. But if you have experience in kink and are craving something more, definitely go for it. Talking to your partner first is best though, especially if they don't know you want to try it out. Surprises are nice sometimes, but painful ones may not be. That's why light kink to start is best...then you can work your way up the chain...no pun intended.

Have a kinky weekend!

M

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