Going down-down, baby

Today I'm going to throw a little something out there that I feel is extremely important.

When it comes to the female orgasm, special attention is necessary. So that means you can't just penetrate and expect her to have a mind blowing orgasm. OK, yes, some ladies have that ability. Lucky them.

But gentlemen, I'm talking about going down.

First I want to talk about the fear. Yes, some women fear having a guys mouth go south, for reasons that should be brushed away. First of all, smell and looks. My counter-attack - vaginas are SO MUCH better looking then what dudes have going on down there.

No offense!

So guys - make her feel comfortable.

And ladies - Don't be shy. If he expects it then why shouldn't you?

Ladies, time to say, "my turn"

If you are feeling a bit nervous or self conscious about him going down, then just do some primping. It's as easy as that!

Now that you're in the mood...he should be doing a few of these things:

1) Stimulate the clitoris with tongue, finger, or both! Don't be too rough at first though. Work your way slowly towards the mind blowing end. And remember, the clit is the most important thing to pay attention to!

2) Pay attention to her reaction. If you hear a moan, continue that motion, and maybe add a little penetration with your finger.

3) Get creative. Don't just make the same motion, switch it up. Move your tongue in different patterns along the lips and the clitoris. I'm going to say it again, never stop working the clitoris.

4) Be gentle. Don't bite or anything like that...it just hurts! If she asks you to nibble, well, thats a different story. But when going down, start off with light pressure to get her turned on and then you can increase pressure with your tongue.

5) Sucking. Yes, just suck slightly. You're not a vacuum, but if you suck her lips/clit just a wee bit, you will definitely see results. Flicking your tongue is also a great way to turn her on.

And the greatest thing about getting your girl off with oral? When she cums, it's only the beginning. There's still the ride ahead.

And my final word to the men who don't want to go downtown: get over it. how can you not find a woman irresistible from that angle? And I guarantee you would suffer if you were to never receive another blow job. Share the love! ...And the orgasms.

-M

*images via chicagonow.com & weaseltech.com