Valentines day for the single gal

L is for the way you look...at me!

O is for the only one I see...

I'll stop right there.

Let's get over the ooey gooey romance before it goes too far.

Valentines day is fast approaching, and for those of you who loathe the hallmark holiday...I have something just for you!

Why does it suck being single on Valentines day?

Answer: IT DOESN'T!

You don't have to give in the cheesy romantic garbage that aims for the heart and the wallet. Who needs a reservation at that perfect restaurant? Who needs that perfect dress and the bouquet of roses?

It's time to reclaim that day as something new, something grand, and something delicious. Throw away that box of chocolates and those heart shaped candies. You deserve a girls night out, and the aim is to find something for yourself.

V-day for couples consists of the usual dinner and movie, etc, etc....

V-day for singles? Lets whip out the hot dresses and chardonnay. There are two options for you ladies out there.

Option one: Ladies night!

Hit the town with your favourite single ladies. Make sure you're all looking smoking hot, grab some martinis and hit the dance floor. Oh, and when those single dudes approach you looking for a night of romance...give 'em the shoulder. That's right, I said it.

Guys might think Valentines day brings out the romantic vibes, but that's not always true. If you want to have a night of clean (or maybe not so clean) fun with the gal pals, don't let any guy get in your way. Because sometimes, we just need a vacation from dudes.

Option two: On the prowl

Show them who's boss! Sex positivity is what I'm trying to shed light on here.

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with going out with the intention of getting down. But don't ever settle for less then what you want. And I mean it. If you like what you see hear, and feel (merrrow) then go for it. If anything, I mean anything, puts you off, then there is nothing wrong with going home alone!

I'm sick of the same old same old - boy meets girl and sweeps her off her feet. We need a new fairy tale. How about you sweep someone off their feet? And if not, there is no shame in being happily single.

Moral of the story - Valentines day is for suckers. Don't get me wrong, I have some plans for V-day, but in all honesty, this so-called special day shouldn't make you feel lonely. Take the power back and don't let it get to you!

Happy February!

-M

Call girl

There are so many things a girl can do to turn a guys switch on. And fast.

But isn't it more fun when you're just out of reach? To drive him crazy, your cell phone can be a rather handy tool.

Using your phone to stimulate each other is good for long distance relationships and even relationships where you live together or see one another often. It's a nice surprise to spice things up.

Exhibit A: The Sext

Sure, you send your guy texts all day. Some of them are mundane and boring, maybe you tell him about how you fell on the bus (but mainly just so you have something to distract yourself from the embarrassment). And maybe just to say have a good day.

I know what your thinking..."the dangers of sexting"!! Well, luckily we're not 15 and you should know what you can and cannot sext to your partner. For example, if you are dating a dude for a week, don't send him a pic of your boobs, as he may show all of his bros. Lame.

A sext doesn't have to be a picture! You can always send a few naughty words his way when you both are in class or at work. It builds the excitement for when you finally get to see each other at the end of the day, week, whatever. It keeps you both thrilled and quite turned on. If a text can get you fellin' feverish, just wait til you hit the bedroom.

Of course, sexting can go a bit further than just dirty talk. If you're really comfortable with each other, sending a few sexy pictures showcasing your undies (or even your naughty bits, if you dare) could be fun, but you should make a deal to delete within a few days. After all, you get each other in the flesh. A photo just cannot compare!

Exhibit B: Phone Sex

For those of you who can't see your sweetie on the daily, this could be a way to make up for lack of proper lovin'...or if you just want to make a dirty phone call to your man while at home, go for it! Oh, and guys, don't be shy, you can try it too!

Of course, just like talking dirty in bed, talking dirty on the phone can also be a challenge for some. However, some may find it easier. There's a barrier there, you can't see each other, so everything depends on your words. So don't be shy.

So, you might be wondering, "how do I get this going"?

Well, don't tell him. Just do it.

Get yourself in the mood and put on something sexy. Light some candles and lay in bed.

Call him and when he answers (oh, make sure it IS him who answers) just jump right into it. Tell him how much you want him and wish they were there in bed with you.

Then you can move on to telling him what your wearing, what you want to do to him, and what you are currently doing to yourself, if you know what I mean. You want to paint a picture in his head and make him feel like he's right there. Ask him questions and describe what you're doing. Even though there's some heavy petting happening with one person in the room, the phone line between you helps a lot.

Just remember to not think about what you're saying too much. Keep it natural, but feel free to explore some thoughts that may cross your mind without worrying what they think. Something over the phone might spark an idea for your next sexual encounter...when you're both there!

I challenge YOU to send a sexy note or make a frisky phone call. Who knows what pleasures it could bring...

-M

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