January heat

2012 is just around the corner, so I hope you have your best dresses picked out. It may be below zero but I think we can still create a little heat. I mostly mean between the sheets.

One of my favourite things about new years after the party dresses are the resolutions. Haven't we all gathered after the ball drops to whisper our plans, whether its hitting the gym or spending less on shoes (yeah, right). Sometimes a few are a bit out of reach but I have a couple of ideas that are definitely within reason if you are willing.

1. Get a little more va-va voom in the bedroom. For all of those in relationships, this is something that could take it to the next level. Don't get stuck in a rut. Spice it up if you haven't already. And the best part is you can start right when the clock strikes midnight. Fancy a kiss? Lay it on 'em and they'll be dying for more, and none of that "pecking" nonsense, I want PASSION! I want HEAT. If you're shy, get over it, a little PDA never killed anyone...I think.

2. Once the party ends you can really get to the good stuff. Happy new year sex, anyone? And share a little pillow-talk, too. Tell each other your new years resolutions. I must stress the importance of communication. If you want to become closer in the new year then you should consider some conversation following the whole ripping off each others clothes bit. I suggest a little truth or dare between the two of you. But avoid anything that may spark a fight! That would take the fun out of everything.

3. Invest in some sexy play time toys. Whether it's a barely there piece of lingerie or a vibrator, trying something new is always fun. I'm not recommending nipple clamps... unless you've reached that level, of course.

At the very least, try something new. Even just a new position can bring a whole lot of passion rushing back. So light some candles and get to it!

4. To my single people out there, let me just say, making a resolution to "get a boyfriend/girlfriend" is not a good one to go by. Enjoy single life while you have it, because telling yourself you NEED a partner is just ridiculous. You may also find yourself forcing relationships with people you don't even REALLY like. So a great resolution to go by is ENJOY life, let things happen, and if you meet the right person, that's a bonus. Forget about the ticking clock, instead, have some fun. Nothing wrong with a new years eve one night stand if you're up for it. We all need a little lovin' sometimes.

However, I can't stress the importance of independence. If you've had a rough year of dating, maybe 2012 will be a good time to take a break from it. As for the lack of sex, that is nothing a good vibrator can't fix. Focus on friendships this time around.

5. Be happy. I'm getting cheesy but starting the new year on the right foot is a good way to go. And if you're not happy, make a change. Whether its your relationship or you wardrobe.

What are YOUR new years resolutions?

-M

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Call girl

There are so many things a girl can do to turn a guys switch on. And fast.

But isn't it more fun when you're just out of reach? To drive him crazy, your cell phone can be a rather handy tool.

Using your phone to stimulate each other is good for long distance relationships and even relationships where you live together or see one another often. It's a nice surprise to spice things up.

Exhibit A: The Sext

Sure, you send your guy texts all day. Some of them are mundane and boring, maybe you tell him about how you fell on the bus (but mainly just so you have something to distract yourself from the embarrassment). And maybe just to say have a good day.

I know what your thinking..."the dangers of sexting"!! Well, luckily we're not 15 and you should know what you can and cannot sext to your partner. For example, if you are dating a dude for a week, don't send him a pic of your boobs, as he may show all of his bros. Lame.

A sext doesn't have to be a picture! You can always send a few naughty words his way when you both are in class or at work. It builds the excitement for when you finally get to see each other at the end of the day, week, whatever. It keeps you both thrilled and quite turned on. If a text can get you fellin' feverish, just wait til you hit the bedroom.

Of course, sexting can go a bit further than just dirty talk. If you're really comfortable with each other, sending a few sexy pictures showcasing your undies (or even your naughty bits, if you dare) could be fun, but you should make a deal to delete within a few days. After all, you get each other in the flesh. A photo just cannot compare!

Exhibit B: Phone Sex

For those of you who can't see your sweetie on the daily, this could be a way to make up for lack of proper lovin'...or if you just want to make a dirty phone call to your man while at home, go for it! Oh, and guys, don't be shy, you can try it too!

Of course, just like talking dirty in bed, talking dirty on the phone can also be a challenge for some. However, some may find it easier. There's a barrier there, you can't see each other, so everything depends on your words. So don't be shy.

So, you might be wondering, "how do I get this going"?

Well, don't tell him. Just do it.

Get yourself in the mood and put on something sexy. Light some candles and lay in bed.

Call him and when he answers (oh, make sure it IS him who answers) just jump right into it. Tell him how much you want him and wish they were there in bed with you.

Then you can move on to telling him what your wearing, what you want to do to him, and what you are currently doing to yourself, if you know what I mean. You want to paint a picture in his head and make him feel like he's right there. Ask him questions and describe what you're doing. Even though there's some heavy petting happening with one person in the room, the phone line between you helps a lot.

Just remember to not think about what you're saying too much. Keep it natural, but feel free to explore some thoughts that may cross your mind without worrying what they think. Something over the phone might spark an idea for your next sexual encounter...when you're both there!

I challenge YOU to send a sexy note or make a frisky phone call. Who knows what pleasures it could bring...

-M

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